Selfish Mommy

"I did it all, including giving birth to Sondra at 21 and Denise at 25,

while graduating from Hillman College and going to law school, 

then becoming a successful attorney, raising three more children, 

dancing with Debbie Allen, and loving my husband 

who performs medical examinations in the basement."

Part of me wants to burn down all of the projects I'm working on and start a new one called Selfish Mommy, where I tell mothers via audio, video, blog, book, online, and in person that I give you permission to make time for yourself.

That's essentially what I'm doing here on I Have A Dream Board, but the message is for busy women in general, whether you have decided to raise children or not.

Women in general need to shut out all the noise and think about what is right for them.

Mothers in particular have crazy nonsense hurled at them all the time.

I thought it would stop by the time I became a mother. It is 2017, after all. But now it's worse.

The last straw on the camel's back came for me last week.

You're Right. You Don't Have Time for everything. Here's a Quick Fix.

C'est tout.

You don't have to do it all.

How can you move forward?

How can you get more done?

"Well, I'll tell you, Nicki."

"How does she do it all?" I don't. You shouldn't either.

"For real, tho?"

Yes, for real.

Let me spin you a tale. A Mother's Day tale.

How was this a movie?

For this Mother's Day, I had quite a morning planned for myself that would start with celebratory public outing with hundreds of other families, and commence with lunch and a nap in the afternoon. I had been organizing this for weeks, sending emails, making multiple calls, arranging printouts and pick-ups and drop-offs, because I knew it would be something my family would enjoy.

Note that I had orchestrated much of this myself, even though I have capable people in my family that could have made some plans on their own for me, the Mother in question.

On the Saturday night before Mother's Day, as I was going to bed, I realized I was feeling ill. But maybe my malady would go away by the morning.

It did not go away by morning.

I felt worse.

Now what?

#TimeManagement: How your Dream Board can help you "make time for me"

"Can't stop, won't stop... Help."

You're a lady (or a gentleman?) with a lot on your plate.

You're always doing everything for everyone else.

Yes, but...

You need some "me time".

Some time for you.

Right now, Nathan Fillion!

First, if you don't have a Dream Board, or you'd like to make a new one, here's How to Build Your First Dream Board.

Second, if you do have a Dream Board, Congratulations!

You're welcome, Beyoncé.

Here are three ways your Dream Board can help you with time management, so you can make time for yourself (instead of everyone else):